Love is many things to many people this days. Its either a box of chocolate or a marry me proposal but whatever the case, all na love. The case for the value of all the expressions of love we profess nowadays and the damaging consequences of how we feel when seemingly left out in the seasonal love craze of February is another topic for another day.
However I would like to focus on the virtue tied up and hidden at the back office of our generation. Its called tough love. I guess all of a sudden, the imagination of red roses just faded from your mind. Hahahaha.
Tough love is not harsh love, its just a lovely disposition towards choosing to invest in and celebrate the strength of a person while diligently helping them overcome weaknesses.
Tough love is often misinterpreted as a call to be hard on the other person and this bias has led to the justification of oppression, all in the name of love. However I would redefine the concept of tough love to mean the ability to bear,share and care regardless of the weaknesses of the other party.
Tough love here is what transpires between God and man in that; regardless of all God has done by giving his son Jesus to die to save mankind,he still allows his mercy to operate when we knowingly or unknowingly mess up. Tough love is a practice of patience and mercy. Its the ability to look upon that lady whom you love so much;yet she won't live up to certain expectations but you look her in the eye and say honey I still love you. With all her imperfections and seeming ungrateful conduct you decide to stand with her and love her. That's tough love.
For the man that don't seem to get how to love you (the lady) as best as you feel you deserve, holding him tight and whispering those words "honey I still love you" even when it don't make sense, that's tough love.
Understanding the notion of loving tough is a guarantee for relationships, its the needed source of commitment and perseverance we need to stay in love at a time when the goodbye phrase seem to become a common phenomenon in most relationships.
The responsibility of making relationships work falls on both parties. Embracing tough love and loving tough would save you the embarrassment of discovering that the same reason you quit your first relationship is inherent in the second and the third.
There are no hard and fast rules but one underlining truth remains that loving is tough and sacrifices must me made continuously if relationship between man and the lady is to be sustain.
In the spirit of the season, let's love again, not with the definitions that lack substance but with an uncommon dedication towards giving our time,resources and ourselves to the ones we love;even when we don't get as much as we feel we deserve. Now that's tough love.
Happy Valentine Season.
God bless you.
Written by Igonoh Godwin.
06/02/12
www.godplus.blogspot.com
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