A CASE AGAINST RESERVATIONS-Relationship management

Developing reservations often comes from the inability of a loved one to see that he or she is stretching too far the bearing attitude of the other party, reservations become unspoken views hoped that with-holding such views would keep the relationship at the possible best. It’s often discovered that the person developing reservations are always desirous of seeing the relationship work; to which extent they are willing to forgo their views so that the other party would enjoy the needed peace which they desire to be seen in the relationship.

Reservations as interestingly sincere as they might be, aimed at keeping us away from squabbles are almost an unhealthy thing as we see that the party in the know of the reservations bear a lot in mind hoping that the recipient of this seeming understanding would come to his or her senses on the said issue and forthwith desist from patronizing the events that has led to the developed reservations, but often times, the other party never really gets to do that expected as the reservations has deprived the said party the privilege of knowing the dissatisfaction of the person with reservations.

Reservations are used to channel a lot of energy into hoping and trusting that things would change. In relationships, reservations are used to propel optimism and a lot of energy is needed to keep that optimism high. In the event that such optimism ends up not yielding the needed results, it’s discovered that the out burst of rage and disappointment often leads the reserved party to indulging in the same exercise he or she vehemently sort to avoid.(a passionate pursuit of break up)

There are obviously many reasons why you might want to hold back your views in a relationship and I beg to say they all tailor towards keeping the relationship alive, all under the pretence of understanding, but like earlier said, such seeming understanding is also depriving the other offending party the needed information for change.

Information is a strong component in propelling change, however there often comes a time that information is with held in view of the seeming realties, those realities might range from the past refusal of the other party to accept what might look this an opposing view; to the fact that the time and place might not seem quiet appropriate to disseminate such information, so we try to either delay the release of information or completely avoid the release of information.

Whichever be the case, delaying or with holding information often seem helpful in relationship management but looking properly at what might be considered as the strength of a relationship, we’ll say the amount of information we have about each other enhances a great deal of trust which in turn strengthens the relationship.

The underlining truth about dissemination of information in relationship is always not to try to hold back needed information rather understanding the need to sieve the information to meet the objective of keeping the other party informed without necessarily causing grate damage to the person concerned, you might say that in itself seems like with-hold or dissemination of incomplete information but you also need to remember that the objective of information dissemination is to empower the recipient to function in the right capacity and not to destroy the physiological frame work of the party receiving the information.

Sieving information is in itself a function of understanding of the personality receiving the information. We can sieve without taking away the needed facts, however if the information host is not fully in tune with the needed level of understanding of the information recipient, then its strongly advised you don’t try sieving information, its better to look for other alternate channels to use in dissemination of that information. I might suggest the use of a third party, possibly a person with a better understanding of the information recipient or issue involved.

I also want to identify that there are instances where third party might not be appropriate; i.e. when its an emotional relationship, its often advisable to deal with the issue on ground as an inside or closed family issue rather than publicly declaring;(however, if in a closed family or emotional setting, there might be a threat on life, it’s highly advisable to introduce a third party) because at times the third party might in an attempt to handle the issue on ground dabble into areas he or she has little or no prior knowledge of. This type of complications are seen every day as we try to mange relationship without understanding the nitigrity of what might be needed to deal appropriately. There is obviously a need to develop sensitivity in your pursuit of a peaceful relationship, the sensitivity helps you develop the good use of discretion in matters arising.

Reservations are strong pointers to the possibility of a break up, we need to be more subtle and less confrontational in our quest to air our opinion, the central objective of information dissemination in a conversation between two people is to help address issue, at such there is no need to be harsh and confrontational as this only produces defense and aggression from the other party.

A subtle presentation of the information can and might help encourage a better explanation of the issue on ground. Human nature vehemently opposes any attempt to force out explanation of issues that relates to ones self. Similarly it’s important to remember that the party on a quest for issues to be address is the major beneficiary of the explanation so a lot of patience is needed if you’re going to hear the crux of the matter.

Relating with people is a more complex job than building 100 storey building as the major implement for such a construction still remains people; so if you can successfully manage your relationship with people getting the needed information out of them without touching a loose thread, then a lot is bound to be achieve in virtually every area of your life.

In trying to maintain reservations and managing understanding, its best you patiently seek the strength of character with is a strong implement in developing a good use of discretion in human relationship management.

Break ups are often not without backlog of unexpressed reservations and at some point an improperly managed attempt to demand explanations for issues arising from the relationship.