HOW DO YOU CHECK FOR ImPOtENCy?

There are many laws in our generation that suggest how to deal with issues in relationships, if fact you’ll often hear them say you need to ensure you cover all angles to avoid making a mistake and one of such is the areas of making sure a guy you date is not promiscuous. Well our review today is on a particular situation that happened recently.

A lady met a guy and they feel in love like we always do, it went well and they even planned a wedding. The preliminaries of seeing parents and all other people involved began and just when everything was in high gear, something happened………

You see I don’t like putting laws because with every law comes an opening for error, this lady like most of us live alone, so the guy comes around and they hangout and gist and watch movies and so on and if you can imagine, a girl you’ll be wedding in few months, if you’re not careful which most of us are not, you’ll feel like touching and bla bla bla,well that was the case, from the peripheries to the point where she almost gave in, in fact she had let go, it was now time too have sex, she’ll say you know when you have agreed to his demand…..she had agreed and it was just time, they had undressed but…….the lights went out. Not Electricity, I mean the guy just couldn’t get it up, but being the first time, he just gathered himself and they got dressed and that night passed.

She said it was so obvious something was wrong but there was no way to verify, so she got worried, she spoke with a friend who I must say was a bit blunt about what to do, she told her …this next time, you make the move to have sex with him, so she went back to this her hubby to be, she pushed for sex and like most guys he was giving in but he just couldn’t get it up……wao now it was clear, he cried and the story goes…….

Anyway she said she asked herself one question, can I live without sex in marriage? Her answer was NO, so she backed out.

Here’s the question she asked me and I ask you too, how do you check for potency in a guy before marriage and if you don’t, what do you do if you realize he is impotent?

Many people would expect that the guy should be frank and tell the girl but from what I gathered, this guy felt bad he made a move on the girl, indicating he wanted it kept secrete till after the wedding….So what do you do as a lady to verify some private issues before you say I do, knowing fully well that the integrity of a relationship is often tailored towards no sex before marriage, its also highly recommended by our spirituality that sex before marriage is ungodly.

This issue is only a pointer that there are many things we might never really get a full view of in a relationship, that does not in any way imply we cant get through them but it simply means we need to deal with the possibility that there are few things that might not meet our expectations and its ok to understand this but the issue is to what extent can we deal with the issues and what areas are we looking at; as some people have said their sexuality is a vital part of their relationship and issues about such areas are often treated as high priority.


What’s your opinion on this???